Let's talk about sex, baby

One of the issues that seems to inevitably come up in marriage counselling is S.E.X. No surprise there, I guess.

My wife happens to think that there might be a good possibility that I'm gay. Why? Well, the fact that she's found some gay porn might have something to do with it.

Am I gay? True answer - it isn't important.

What is important is that I'm looking for, craving, love from a man that I didn't get as a child. Not sex. The problem is that sex can substitute for love. And nothing gets simple when you've been sexually abused.

Honestly, how do men show that they love each other? How can a man love a man as much as he loves a woman and express it? Without sex?

I don't go in for the male-female, two halves, missing piece theory that basically puts men and women together to become a whole. It's people I want to love first and whether they are male or female is a separate issue. But that still doesn't answer my question about how a man can love another man.